This would be a nice topic to debate. Apparently I wasn't nice enough for her. I am more into discussing interesting topics as INFP, I am also very affectionate and expressing, but he is different. Consequently, like other TJ types, they can come across as blunt, mechanical, or lacking a certain degree of tact or social know-how. They take things so personally, too… after the first few years of being with my wife, I felt like I was constantly walking on eggshells. In fact, discussions about emotions, feelings, and the future freak him out.
I've known him 6 years ago and I wasn't old or mature enough so I friendzoned him, or so to speak, then I told him I like him, and things changed and stumbled between us.
Far more so than the average person, and on the polar opposite end of the scale in that regard from typical INTJs. In our relationship he is very calculated in what he says and does, to the point that there is no natural flow in talking about the important things in life, and transparency is important to me. The reserved intj serves as pool of passion for us capricious,hoop jumping,pole vaulting emotion atheletes with a knack for over analytics. What are your thoughts on INFJ women? Also let them control and make most decisions. Take that with a grain of salt though: And because INTJs often prefer expressing themselves orally rather than in writing, they seek out others interested in hearing their knowledge and insights they resemble INFJs in this respect.