Look forward to becoming an equal member of the family as you gradually integrate over time. You would be wise to make it clear that you have no intentions of trying to buck nature blood is thicker than water and are more than willing to treat his children in kind and loving ways and support him in his role as a parent. Get our newsletter every Friday! I viewed her as the evil woman that took my father away from me and my mom. You've got to roll with it. The advice came from my dear friend Jennifer, who has a stepfamily of her own and understands that it takes time and patience to blend and bond. I had wanted a partner, but one with kids?
Maintain your role when challenged.
What You Should Know About Dating a Man With Children
One day you'll feel like you can't catch a break no matter what you say or do, and the next your boyfriend's kids say something incredibly sweet or confide in you or make you laugh. I remember the first time I heard his youngest daughter's voice. Soon, couples come into my office saying, "We never knew it would be this hard. You need to clearly define your limits. These are things many don't think about when dating and getting serious with a guy who has kids. Do not take more responsibility than you're comfortable with.